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Proverbs 25:8
Don’t take a matter to court hastily. Otherwise, what will you do afterward if your opponent humiliates you?
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Proverbs 20:3
It is honorable for a man to resolve a dispute, but any fool can get himself into a quarrel.
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1 Thessalonians 4 11
to seek to lead a quiet life, to mind your own business, and to work with your own hands, as we commanded you,
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James 3:14-18
But if you have bitter envy and selfish ambition in your heart, don’t brag and deny the truth.Such wisdom does not come from above but is earthly, unspiritual, demonic.For where envy and selfish ambition exist, there is disorder and every kind of evil.But the wisdom from above is first pure, then peace-loving, gentle, compliant, full of mercy and good fruits, without favoritism and hypocrisy.And the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace by those who cultivate peace.
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Ecclesiastes 7:8-9
The end of a matter is better than its beginning; a patient spirit is better than a proud spirit.Don’t let your spirit rush to be angry, for anger abides in the heart of fools.
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Proverbs 15:1
A gentle answer turns away anger, but a harsh word stirs up wrath.
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2 Chronicles 25 17-2 Chronicles 25 24
King Amaziah of Judah took counsel and sent word to Jehoash son of Jehoahaz, son of Jehu, king of Israel, saying,“ Come, let us meet face to face.”King Jehoash of Israel sent word to King Amaziah of Judah, saying,“ The thistle that was in Lebanon sent a message to the cedar that was in Lebanon, saying,‘ Give your daughter to my son as a wife.’ Then a wild animal that was in Lebanon passed by and trampled the thistle.You have said,‘ Look, I have defeated Edom,’ and you have become overconfident that you will get glory. Now stay at home. Why stir up such trouble so that you fall and Judah with you?”But Amaziah would not listen, for this turn of events was from God in order to hand them over to their enemies because they went after the gods of Edom.So King Jehoash of Israel advanced. He and King Amaziah of Judah faced off at Beth-shemesh in Judah.Judah was routed before Israel, and each fled to his own tent.King Jehoash of Israel captured Judah’s King Amaziah son of Joash, son of Jehoahaz, at Beth-shemesh. Then Jehoash took him to Jerusalem and broke down 200 yards of Jerusalem’s wall from the Ephraim Gate to the Corner Gate.He took all the gold, silver, all the utensils that were found with Obed-edom in God’s temple, the treasures of the king’s palace, and the hostages. Then he returned to Samaria.
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Proverbs 14:29
A patient person shows great understanding, but a quick-tempered one promotes foolishness.
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Romans 12:18
If possible, on your part, live at peace with everyone.
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Proverbs 29:22
An angry man stirs up conflict, and a hot-tempered man increases rebellion.
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Proverbs 26:21
As charcoal for embers and wood for fire, so is a quarrelsome man for kindling strife.
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Judges 12:1-6
The men of Ephraim were called together and crossed the Jordan to Zaphon. They said to Jephthah,“ Why have you crossed over to fight against the Ammonites but didn’t call us to go with you? We will burn your house down with you in it!”Then Jephthah said to them,“ My people and I had a serious conflict with the Ammonites. So I called for you, but you didn’t deliver me from their power.When I saw that you weren’t going to deliver me, I took my life in my own hands and crossed over to the Ammonites, and the Lord handed them over to me. Why then have you come today to fight against me?”Then Jephthah gathered all of the men of Gilead. They fought and defeated Ephraim, because Ephraim had said,“ You Gileadites are Ephraimite fugitives in the territories of Ephraim and Manasseh.”The Gileadites captured the fords of the Jordan leading to Ephraim. Whenever a fugitive from Ephraim said,“ Let me cross over,” the Gileadites asked him,“ Are you an Ephraimite?” If he answered,“ No,”they told him,“ Please say Shibboleth.” If he said,“ Sibboleth,” because he could not pronounce it correctly, they seized him and killed him at the fords of the Jordan. At that time 42,000 from Ephraim died.
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2 Timothy 2 23-2 Timothy 2 24
But reject foolish and ignorant disputes, knowing that they breed quarrels.The Lord’s slave must not quarrel, but must be gentle to everyone, able to teach, and patient,
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Proverbs 17:19
One who loves to offend loves strife; one who builds a high threshold invites injury.
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2 Chronicles 10 14-2 Chronicles 10 16
and spoke to them according to the young men’s advice, saying,“ My father made your yoke heavy, but I will add to it; my father disciplined you with whips, but I, with barbed whips.”The king did not listen to the people because the turn of events came from God, in order that the Lord might carry out His word that He had spoken through Ahijah the Shilonite to Jeroboam son of Nebat.When all Israel saw that the king had not listened to them, the people answered the king: What portion do we have in David? We have no inheritance in the son of Jesse. Israel, each man to your tent; David, look after your own house now! So all Israel went to their tents.
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Judges 8:1-3
The men of Ephraim said to him,“ Why have you done this to us, not calling us when you went to fight against the Midianites?” And they argued with him violently.So he said to them,“ What have I done now compared to you? Is not the gleaning of Ephraim better than the vintage of Abiezer?God handed over to you Oreb and Zeeb, the two princes of Midian. What was I able to do compared to you?” When he said this, their anger against him subsided.
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Matthew 5:39-41
But I tell you, don’t resist an evildoer. On the contrary, if anyone slaps you on your right cheek, turn the other to him also.As for the one who wants to sue you and take away your shirt, let him have your coat as well.And if anyone forces you to go one mile, go with him two.
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Proverbs 13:10
Arrogance leads to nothing but strife, but wisdom is gained by those who take advice.
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2 Samuel 19 41-2 Samuel 20 22
Suddenly, all the men of Israel came to the king. They asked him,“ Why did our brothers, the men of Judah, take you away secretly and transport the king and his household across the Jordan, along with all of David’s men?”All the men of Judah responded to the men of Israel,“ Because the king is our relative. Why does this make you angry? Have we ever eaten anything of the king’s or been honored at all?”The men of Israel answered the men of Judah:“ We have 10 shares in the king, so we have a greater claim to David than you. Why then do you despise us? Weren’t we the first to speak of restoring our king?” But the words of the men of Judah were harsher than those of the men of Israel.Now a wicked man, a Benjaminite named Sheba son of Bichri, happened to be there. He blew the ram’s horn and shouted: We have no portion in David, no inheritance in Jesse’s son. Each man to his tent, Israel!So all the men of Israel deserted David and followed Sheba son of Bichri, but the men of Judah from the Jordan all the way to Jerusalem remained loyal to their king.When David came to his palace in Jerusalem, he took the 10 concubines he had left to take care of the palace and placed them under guard. He provided for them, but he was not intimate with them. They were confined until the day of their death, living as widows.The king said to Amasa,“ Summon the men of Judah to me within three days and be here yourself.”Amasa went to summon Judah, but he took longer than the time allotted him.So David said to Abishai,“ Sheba son of Bichri will do more harm to us than Absalom. Take your lord’s soldiers and pursue him, or he will find fortified cities and elude us.”So Joab’s men, the Cherethites, the Pelethites, and all the warriors marched out under Abishai’s command; they left Jerusalem to pursue Sheba son of Bichri.They were at the great stone in Gibeon when Amasa joined them. Joab was wearing his uniform and over it was a belt around his waist with a sword in its sheath. As he approached, the sword fell out.Joab asked Amasa,“ Are you well, my brother?” Then with his right hand Joab grabbed Amasa by the beard to kiss him.Amasa was not on guard against the sword in Joab’s hand, and Joab stabbed him in the stomach with it and spilled his intestines out on the ground. Joab did not stab him again for Amasa was dead. Joab and his brother Abishai pursued Sheba son of Bichri.One of Joab’s young men had stood over Amasa saying,“ Whoever favors Joab and whoever is for David, follow Joab!”Now Amasa was writhing in his blood in the middle of the highway, and the man had seen that all the people stopped. So he moved Amasa from the highway to the field and threw a garment over him because he realized that all those who encountered Amasa were stopping.When he was removed from the highway, all the men passed by and followed Joab to pursue Sheba son of Bichri.Sheba passed through all the tribes of Israel to Abel of Beth-maacah. All the Berites came together and followed him.Joab’s troops came and besieged Sheba in Abel of Beth-maacah. They built an assault ramp against the outer wall of the city. While all the troops with Joab were battering the wall to make it collapse,a wise woman called out from the city,“ Listen! Listen! Please tell Joab to come here and let me speak with him.”When he had come near her, the woman asked,“ Are you Joab?”“ I am,” he replied.“ Listen to the words of your servant,” she said to him. He answered,“ I’m listening.”She said,“ In the past they used to say,‘ Seek counsel in Abel,’ and that’s how they settled disputes.I am a peaceful person, one of the faithful in Israel, but you’re trying to destroy a city that is like a mother in Israel. Why would you devour the Lord’s inheritance?”Joab protested:“ Never! I do not want to destroy!That is not my intention. There is a man named Sheba son of Bichri, from the hill country of Ephraim, who has rebelled against King David. Deliver this one man, and I will withdraw from the city.” The woman replied to Joab,“ All right. His head will be thrown over the wall to you.”The woman went to all the people with her wise counsel, and they cut off the head of Sheba son of Bichri and threw it to Joab. So he blew the ram’s horn, and they dispersed from the city, each to his own tent. Joab returned to the king in Jerusalem.
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Genesis 13:8-9
Then Abram said to Lot,“ Please, let’s not have quarreling between you and me, or between your herdsmen and my herdsmen, since we are relatives.Isn’t the whole land before you? Separate from me: if you go to the left, I will go to the right; if you go to the right, I will go to the left.”
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Proverbs 19:11
A person’s insight gives him patience, and his virtue is to overlook an offense.
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2 Chronicles 28 6
Pekah son of Remaliah killed 120,000 in Judah in one day— all brave men— because they had abandoned the Lord God of their ancestors.
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Acts 15:2-21
But after Paul and Barnabas had engaged them in serious argument and debate, the church arranged for Paul and Barnabas and some others of them to go up to the apostles and elders in Jerusalem concerning this controversy.When they had been sent on their way by the church, they passed through both Phoenicia and Samaria, explaining in detail the conversion of the Gentiles, and they created great joy among all the brothers.When they arrived at Jerusalem, they were welcomed by the church, the apostles, and the elders, and they reported all that God had done with them.But some of the believers from the party of the Pharisees stood up and said,“ It is necessary to circumcise them and to command them to keep the law of Moses!”Then the apostles and the elders assembled to consider this matter.After there had been much debate, Peter stood up and said to them:“ Brothers, you are aware that in the early days God made a choice among you, that by my mouth the Gentiles would hear the gospel message and believe.And God, who knows the heart, testified to them by giving the Holy Spirit, just as He also did to us.He made no distinction between us and them, cleansing their hearts by faith.Now then, why are you testing God by putting a yoke on the disciples’ necks that neither our ancestors nor we have been able to bear?On the contrary, we believe we are saved through the grace of the Lord Jesus in the same way they are.”Then the whole assembly fell silent and listened to Barnabas and Paul describing all the signs and wonders God had done through them among the Gentiles.After they stopped speaking, James responded:“ Brothers, listen to me!Simeon has reported how God first intervened to take from the Gentiles a people for His name.And the words of the prophets agree with this, as it is written:After these things I will return and rebuild David’s fallen tent. I will rebuild its ruins and set it up again,so the rest of humanity may seek the Lord— even all the Gentiles who are called by My name, declares the Lord who does these things,known from long ago.Therefore, in my judgment, we should not cause difficulties for those among the Gentiles who turn to God,but instead we should write to them to abstain from things polluted by idols, from sexual immorality, from eating anything that has been strangled, and from blood.For since ancient times, Moses has had those who proclaim him in every city, and every Sabbath day he is read aloud in the synagogues.”
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Acts 6:1-5
In those days, as the number of the disciples was multiplying, there arose a complaint by the Hellenistic Jews against the Hebraic Jews that their widows were being overlooked in the daily distribution.Then the Twelve summoned the whole company of the disciples and said,“ It would not be right for us to give up preaching about God to handle financial matters.Therefore, brothers, select from among you seven men of good reputation, full of the Spirit and wisdom, whom we can appoint to this duty.But we will devote ourselves to prayer and to the preaching ministry.”The proposal pleased the whole company. So they chose Stephen, a man full of faith and the Holy Spirit, and Philip, Prochorus, Nicanor, Timon, Parmenas, and Nicolaus, a proselyte from Antioch.
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2 Chronicles 13 17
Then Abijah and his people struck them with a mighty blow, and 500,000 choice men of Israel were killed.
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Proverbs 16:32
Patience is better than power, and controlling one’s temper, than capturing a city.
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2 Samuel 2 14-2 Samuel 2 17
Then Abner said to Joab,“ Let’s have the young men get up and compete in front of us.”“ Let them get up,” Joab replied.So they got up and were counted off— 12 for Benjamin and Ish-bosheth son of Saul, and 12 from David’s soldiers.Then each man grabbed his opponent by the head and thrust his sword into his opponent’s side so that they all died together. So this place, which is in Gibeon, is named Field of Blades.The battle that day was extremely fierce, and Abner and the men of Israel were defeated by David’s soldiers.